Friday, May 11, 2018

A Tribute to Moms | The Spaulding Family

I live life with three kiddos, one who is pre-teen and able to maintain a level of independence, and two who solely rely on me for everything. It was a challenge to go from raising one child to raising three, and to go from having my own independence to having little time for myself. I remember crying after having my second child, because I was so exhausted, couldn't get anything accomplished without hearing screams of wanting mommy, and just thinking of how selfish a person I was. I had so many selfish ways. 

When no person fully relies on you, you're able to care about the things you want. You go wherever you want, whenever you want, at whatever cost to you. You think about the food you want to eat, the hours you want to sleep, the projects you want to complete when you have older children or no children at all. It's easy to think and do the things you want, but when there are little people who need all your attention and time, that's a hard pill to swallow. Surely, I knew, I would have to give up certain luxuries like going out alone or sleeping full nights through for a while, but there was so much more to it than that. Both my babies need love and support all day, and sometimes night. They need me to teach them every moment of every day. We are in a constant state of training, reinforcing behavior, and correcting when mistakes are made. We continuously laugh, dance, and cry throughout our days. My oldest doesn't need as much of these things with me or her daddy, but still needs some of it and a whole lot of love. 

The fact is that being mom is hard. I know being dad is hard too, but I'm not a dad, so I cannot speak to that. Maybe I can get my husband to type something out about being dad for those who want to dive into that world. But being mom is exhausting. Being mom requires a constant inward reflection of self and a continuous outward display of what we teach and want to show our children. Being mom is more than feedings and bath time. It's more than gifts of toys and caving into the wants of our children. It's more than disheveled hair or tripping over hot wheels and toy trucks, then yelling a few bad words because of the pain. Being mom is joy and pain, because being mom involves all the emotions. 

I love being mom to my three children, and when I look at this family below, I can so relate to their joy and love for each other. Life is not always smiles and giggles with children, but we can always appreciate the good with the bad. Our love for our children goes so much deeper than the deepest roots of the tallest trees. My greatest hope is that my children know this every day. 

Happy Mother's Day weekend to all the moms out there. Whether you're doing it on your own or with support, your job is not easy, but it's so priceless. 

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